New writers are very vulnerable and need to be handled gently, but not with kid-gloves. Keeping a friendly tone is very important for the reviewer.
Because we are working together online, we can't see each others faces or body language. You may slip into a tone that sounds arrogant and bossy to the author, but is completely opposite your intention; especially if there are a lot of errors or suggestions to make, and the reading wasn't easy. Your mood will show through.
It isn't easy to give constructive suggestions and avoid destruction of self-esteem with the same comments. It always helps to sum up your comments with a few friendly words of encouragement, and always, always point out the good stuff!
Pointing out every technical error or element issue in one review can be overwhelming to new writers and the reviewer. The ideal way is to work with them step-by-step. Small writing groups are helpful for this.
As a reader/reviewer of novice writers, I try to look past the spelling errors for the story hidden within. Knowing the author likes what he wrote, my job is to help him see how a few changes may make it better. Sometimes it's impossible and I advise him to correct the spelling and I'll try again.
#a side note: I think those who advise against editing until the story is finished must not be active readers or reviewers of novice writers. Proofreading and spell checks should be done before posting for reviews.
True self-esteem can only be built on truth. When someone has truly accomplished something good from a bad first draft, they'll know; they can feel it, and will be just
Reviewing honestly is an integral part of writing - and it's difficult to do. Reviewers can get a reputation of being unfair. This is a valid concern, and I too, have it. Keeping the tone light, friendly and pointing out the good helps.
Begin and end with encourageing comments, and squeeze one or two into the middle. It helps the author swallow the bad, and it's easier for you to dish out.
Harriet is a reviewer of new writers and has written many newsletters and articles on the subject of novice writing and reviewing with common sense and encouragement. Her portfolio can be found at http://www.Writing.Com/authors/storytime She is an author on a site for Creative Writing ( http://www.Writing.Com/ )