When faced with a new situation; how do you react?
A friend of ours, John was at the usual Monday morning meeting in his firm when Clare from Human Resources said "We need someone to train customers and staff in the new systems. Any one got any ideas? The person we selected last week has pulled out.”
Before Clare finished the sentence John's hand was in the air, "I can do it” came out of his mouth almost as fast as a bullet out of a gun.
The room was quiet.
Then a quiet murmur went around the room, "John?"
"He's never trained anyone in his life".
"Does he know the system?"
"Yes but not that well. This is going to be good."
"He's not even been to Uni", said someone else. "How can he do something like this?"
"Who does he think he is? How can someone who only has hands on knowledge train others?" someone else stated.
"He's only been working here for three years what does he know?" What would your response be? Is your immediate response one of "Oh that won't work in a month of Sundays" or do you say "I can see the possibilities here".
You see, one of the biggest habits that keep us subdued and lacking energy is the habit of being a limitarian, the ability to see the negatives and the limits in new ideas rather than the possibilities. We limit ourselves. We look at the logic and decide that this will not work and can hear a million reasons resonating in our head why we ought to ditch this idea. We are brilliant at identifying why a thing or idea can't work rather than identifying why it can.
Ask yourself:
Am I really limiting myself?
Am I stopping myself from having new experiences?
Am I stifling my energy and power?
Am I caught in the loop of anything for an easy life?
Have I developed the automatic NO habit?
If - that won't work - is a phrase that regularly comes out of your mouth, stop for a moment and ask yourself where does it come from? What is it that makes me say no to this request, this idea, rather than yes?
What stops me from saying:
How hard can this possibly be? What are the possibilities on offer here?
You see, you are not only sabotaging someone else's success when you adopt a limited approach to ideas you are also sabotaging your own success. If you continue with a limited way of life then gradually you will lose your love, excitement, enthusiasm and passion for life. You will become a boring, uninspiring person to be with.
However when you start believing in others and believing that things are possible, success becomes a self fulfilling prophesy and you appear to the world as someone with passion and drive and enthusiasm. Because being a possibility thinker gives you energy and confidence.
All you have to do to change your life is become an enabler of possibilities. Because,
"As the shadow follows the body, as we think, so we become"
(the Dhammapada)
Go on make your future different from your past.
Go for it!
Graham and Julie www.desktop-meditation.com
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