How often do you find yourself saying, "No, I don't want this in my life!” "This isn't okay!” "I want this to be different!” when an experience shows up that has you less than thrilled? If you're like most people, I'm going to guess, almost always.
This is such a normal reaction, because the fact is, we like feeling good rather than bad. And with that said, there's another reaction that I'd like you to take into consideration. One, that might have you shouting from the rooftops. It goes something like this:
"Yes! This is my life!” "Thank you, thank you, thank you!”
Okay, I hear those thoughts running through your head right now. You're thinking:
"This woman is nuts.” "Why in the world would I scream from the rooftops shouting thank you over and over again when I've just lost my job and I've got a family to support and a mortgage to pay!”
Or
"Who in their right mind would get excited and be thankful when someone close to them has died?”
Well, when you put it that way, you're right, I am nuts! But what I really want for you at this moment is to allow yourself to travel a little further down the road. You know, after some time has gone by and you've gotten over the initial shock of that 'less than thrilling experience'.
I would imagine all of you have been through shocking, personal experiences in your life. And, when given enough distance from the initial shock of the news, you were able to gain a new perspective, see the bigger picture and learn something from
When you allow yourself to accept the fact that life is not always going to bring you the ability to grow spiritually and emotionally by only handing you lemonade, it gives you the opportunity to dig a little deeper and ask yourself some really important questions.
Some of those questions might be:
1. What do I need to know about myself to understand this better?
2. What can I do differently that I might have missed so this doesn't happen again?
3. Who have I not forgiven in my life that it's time I did, so I have no regrets when he or she passes on?
4. Now that I have this opening available to me, what does my heart and soul want to fill it with?
5. What's the best use of my time so I grow leaps and bounds from this experience?
The questions are endless and they will vary for all of you depending on what life has handed you in the moment. I invite you to love all of your life, because the fact is…it's the only one you have. And the sooner you can appreciate and honor every aspect of it, the quicker you will be able to move from your, "No, no, no!” To your rooftop, shouting, YES, YES, YES!!