In long term love relationships, I believe the bottom line has to do with the heart: what is in yours and how well you take care of someone else's heart.

This is because in long term love relationships, you are given the heart of another person to hold in your hands. Hearts are fragile, and need to be handled gently.

How to be rough with a heart

=> Fight for your right to be right.

=> Believe that if you think something is true, then it should be said no matter what, and it does not matter how you say it since it is true.

=> Believe that since you have always known how to talk, you therefore know how to communicate.

=> Barrel through your relationship with no awareness of what you leave in your wake.

How to be gentle with a heart

=> When communicating, listen for the heart of what is being said, and not just the content.

=> When you have something difficult to say, say it gently.

=> Pay attention to the effect you have on those a

=> Use your database - when you have been with someone for awhile, you know what not to say as well as what to say.

It's like a client of mine once said - "Love is knowing what buttons not to push, and then not pushing them."