Working the crowd by yourself can be very intimidating.

After all, if you don't know anyone, or no one is willing/able to introduce you to anyone it makes for a bit of an uphill climb when it comes to meeting people and more specifically, girls.

There really isn't an easy way to do this. Some people are born schmoozers - being able to talk to anyone, anywhere, anytime without the least bit of hesitation or trouble - but for others it's more of a process.

The best way to start working the crowd it to just jump in and do it as soon as you enter the room.

The longer you wait to jump into a conversation with someone, the less likely you are to get into a conversation with someone.

It's like cliff diving. The longer you stand on top of the cliff and look at the water below, the less likely you are to jump.

Why?

Because you give yourself a chance to get scared. Don't give yourself a chance to get scared. Just get in there and do it.

There are a couple of things that you can do to help yourself, though.

Before

you go into the room, get yourself into a positive, upbeat frame of mind. I don't care what happened to you during the day, if you go into that room anything less than 100% positive and confident your job will be that much harder (as the girls won't be nearly as receptive to your attempts at conversation).

Make yourself laugh. You should probably to do this silently.

Think about something funny that happened, or about a time when you were successful talking to someone "out of the blue".

Think of this as a game.

Do whatever you have to do to make yourself relax, and take some of the pressure off of yourself.

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