If the topic you've been discussing seems to be on the verge of dying, one way of changing topics is to ask a ritual question. You might say, "You said you've been in Florida for three years. Where were you before then?" Sometimes you might want to change to another topic for only a brief moment. All you have to do is say: "Excuse me, but I'd like to change the subject for a moment," and then make your comment or ask your question.

Try to complete your ideas quickly and then return to your original topic of discussion. Don't do this too often. You may give the impression that your mind is scattered, or that you cannot (or don't care to) discuss a particular topic on a meaningful level, and therefore are avoiding the topic. It may also suggest that you are not listening or that you are bored with the subject matter.

Make Use of Names

Repeat her name several times as you speak. That will help you remember it. Moreo

ver, using her name is one of the easiest and most meaningful compliments you can give. You might find it easier to remember names if you visualize them written out. Ask how to spell a difficult name. If you happen to forget her name, it's perfectly OK to say, "Forgive me, but tell me your name again." Don't be embarrassed. And don't try to fake it - a "Christie resents being called "Crissie."

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