Did you know that most self confidence problems originate in childhood? For this reason, it is particularly important to pay attention to children's self confidence - in other words, to help them develop self confidence. They will thank you for it later in life! To develop self confidence, one factor is more important than all the others - unconditional love an approval. If you have that, little else matters - though of course, instilling a sense of self-discipline is also important. Love and approval are right at the center of the confidence issue, though. This is how we tell children that they are appreciated and that they are perfect in exactly the way that they are. If we delay giving approval, or if we appreciate our children for their potential rather than for what they are right at the present moment, we are setting the scene for serious self confidence issues down the road. Many a well meaning parent has fallen into this trap. It is very difficult to help your children develop self confidence if you don't ahve good self-confidence yourself - it's sort of like the blind leading the blind. Ideally, if you yourself have issues with regard to self-confidence, you will try to work them out. You can do this with therapy, or by participating in a course, group or workshop, or just by thinking, reading and working through your issues on your own. We vary in our approach to issues like t

his. While therapy is generally a great idea, some of us really do better exploring problems on our own. What happens if a parent has poor self confidence? The problem is that we tend to project our own self-image onto our children. Some people have a greater tendency than others to do this, but no-one is completely immune to it. Then, if you are projecting what you think of yourself onto your son or daughter,and you have poor self confidence, the message you send out will be a disapproving one. It's hard to develp self confidence under those circumstances. Remember that you are you, and your child is your child - he or she has a separate life with its own unique set of challenges. Support your child in all of his or her endeavors - that's what you're there for. While gentle correction and an insistance on self-discipline is helpful, disapproval isn't. Take a good look at your parenting, and do your best to help your child develop self-confidence.

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