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Sexual Abuse Recovery What To Do & What To Avoid If Your Partner Is A Survivor
The recovery process for physical or sexual abuse survivors requires a multifaceted therapeutic process, facilitated by a professional who is trained in mind, body, spirit healing. Traditional therapy is not effective for physical or sexual abuse recovery.
WHAT TO DO:
* DO learn about abuse aftereffects and the healing process.
* DO use and encourage the Survivor to use empowering language.
* DO help the Survivor make choices.
* DO validate feelings.
* DO encourage therapy for the Survivor, and possibly yourself. Separately and together.
* Do learn and practice effective communication techniques.
* Do learn and practice assertive communication skills.
* DO learn and practice time-out skills.
* DO respect boundaries and limits.
* DO communicate openly about sexuality.
* DO allot time and resources for the healing process.
* DO learn to play.
* DO allot time to be together.
* DO allot time to be apart.
* DO serve as a healthy role model.
* Do blame the offender(s), NOT the Survivor.
* DO plan for crises (including possibly suicidal thoughts).
* DO be honest about your feelings.
* DO acknowledge progress in the healing process.
* DO reinforce streng
* DO believe in the Survivor and in the healing process. WHAT TO AVOID:
* Avoid taking the Survivor's outbursts personally.
* Avoid being a martyr.
* Avoid isolating yourself, even though, the Survivor is.
* Avoid humoring the Survivor into cheerfulness.
* Avoid insisting the Survivor forgive and forget.
* Avoid overwhelming the Survivor with your own anger/frustration regarding the abuse.
* Avoid making pronouncements regarding a "cure" or insist the Survivor hurry the healing process.
* Avoid setting timetables or give ultimatums to the Survivor.
* Avoid giving the Survivor your version how s/he needs to heal.
Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD, author, If I'd Only Known...Sexual Abuse in or out of the Family: A Guide to Prevention, is noted for her pioneering work in verbal, physical and sexual abuse prevention and recovery. http://www.gen-assist.com/book.asp
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