When your significant other is depressed, it can be hard to do things without them, especially if you are the sort to worry. You may not feel comfortable going out for a night on the town when you feel that they might do something. And yet, it is important for you to maintain your own interests, lest their disease become yours as well.

The first step to having your own life is to not lose your friends. Although it is easy to lose contact with friends in a relationship, especially when it's new, that can end up hurting you (for other reasons as well, for instance, if the relationship does not work out). You might not know exactly what you are in for, as your significant other may not have come right out and told you that they are depressed, but knowing that should not change things. Continue to talk with your friends as you would normally, and talk about the things you always talked about. Go out with them for a good time without your boyfriend or girlfriend because you need to maintain your own life and

It is also important for you to continue your own hobbies, especially if your hobbies are not shared by your partner. You might go to interest group meetings, or you might choose instead to do your hobby (be it reading, whittling, candle-making or playing the banjo) at home. That is fine as well. It may be something that you want to share with your boyfriend or girlfriend or it might be something that you want to keep for yourself. That is all well and good, but you need to make sure that you are not losing interest in it in order to stay connected to your significant other. That will only damage your mental health.

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